Lesson 6!

This week we talked about the transitions in marriage, and mainly focusing on how having children affects the marriage (in a good and bad way).  In a power point we saw made by our teacher he showed us how frequently when a couple gets married they are satisfied, and after each child they have their marital satisfaction decreases.  A big reason why that happens, I think, is because of miscommunication.  Maybe the dad doesn't feel like he is that important because the mom is the one who gets to grow the baby and be close to it.  Or maybe after the baby is born the parents are focusing so much on the baby that they aren't caring about each other and their needs.  I think that is miscommunication because a lot of these problems can be talked about before the baby is born, so that after it's born there aren't as many problems.  As women a way we can help our husbands feel involved with our pregnancies is to involve them in doctors appointments during pregnancy, talking to them about how we feel, and letting them make decisions on baby's name or maybe decorations for the room.  Basically always doing things together so he knows he is important in the whole process because of course he is!  Babies are also definitely a good thing, because they are growing our families, and bringing us closer to our Savior.  He sent those little spirits down because He trusts us to take care of them and give them all the love we possibly can.  They can and should also grow us closer as married couples, and to do that we need to make sure we are always on the same page and making decisions together.

I am so looking forward to being able to start a family with my future husband.  I am excited to share those experiences with him, and to be able to grow closer to him because of that sweet little spirit.  I am thankful that Heavenly Father trusts us with that responsibility and privilege!
I hope that as you read this you can take in to consideration how to become closer to your spouse during pregnancy and raising children so that it is a bonding experience rather than the opposite!